Growth Spurts for Grown Women: Why Evolution Feels So Messy Before It Feels Magical

You know what no one talks about in the personal development world? Growth hurts. Like...actually hurts.

Not just “ugh I’m uncomfortable” kind of hurt, but that deep-in-your-gut ache that makes you question literally everything. The kind where your brain and body are like, What are we doing? Why are we doing this again? And yet...if you’re anything like me, you keep going. Because something inside you knows you’re not meant to stay where you are.

I was talking to a friend the other day and I mentioned that, “I feel like I’m going through another growth spurt.” That messy, confusing, uncomfortable space where you're not who you used to be—but you're not quite who you're becoming either.

It’s not that different from what kids go through. Except we don’t get taller—we just get truer.

And yeah, it’s painful. Because growth means letting go. Of identities. Of expectations. Of what you thought your life would look like. You’re not just bucking up against your old self—you’re pushing up against society’s version of who you’re supposed to be. And that, my friend, is no small feat.

But here’s the thing I keep coming back to: every time we evolve, we start a new timeline.

Let that sink in for a sec.

You’re not just growing. You’re rewriting what’s possible for you. You’re stepping into a version of your life that maybe didn’t even seem real before. And yeah, it’s wild. But it also feels...kind of divine. Like the moment you step into that next level, you realize this path was always waiting for you. You didn’t force it. You finally aligned with it.

That’s the part that gives me chills.

Now, I’m not going to sugarcoat it—change is hard. Most people don’t talk about the part where growth feels more like unraveling than rising. It’s confusing. It’s heavy. It’s uncertain. You start questioning your decisions, your timing, your path. You start wondering if maybe it would just be easier to go back to what’s familiar—even if that familiar life never really filled you up.

And just when you think you’ve made peace with the chaos, the universe throws in a twist. It starts testing your commitment. Not in a mean or punishing way, but in that curious, playful way the universe operates. Like it's whispering, “You say you want this life, but are you really ready to hold it?”

Because here’s the truth: the universe rewards movement. It responds to momentum. So once you take a step—even if it’s a shaky, uncertain one—it says, “Okay, let’s play.” And then, boom. Out of nowhere, you’re offered an opportunity that feels just slightly too big. Slightly too bold. Slightly more expansive than the version of you that existed yesterday.

And that’s the crossroads moment. You might feel the urge to shrink. To delay. To wait until you feel “ready.” But you won’t ever feel 100% ready. Growth doesn’t come with a permission slip. It comes with a gut check. And if you pause long enough, you’ll notice it: that quiet inner knowing that says, This is for me. Even if it scares you. Even if it stretches you.

There’s something so powerful—almost magical—about showing up for yourself. Not just once, but consistently. Especially when you don’t feel fully ready. Especially when doubt creeps in. Because here’s the thing: readiness isn’t a prerequisite for transformation—willingness is.

When you finally say yes to the thing you’ve been calling in, something shifts. Not just in your circumstances, but in your body. You feel it like a deep exhale. A grounded sense of this is it. It doesn’t always feel easy, but it feels true. Like alignment. Like recognition. Like coming home to a version of yourself you almost forgot was waiting.

So if you’ve been waiting for a sign.
This is it.
Let’s begin.